days we make more and more choices all the time, from which toothbrush suits us
best to what to do with our lives. It’s great to have so many opportunities yet
the sheer number of choices we make can be wearing. There was the man who wanted
a simple life who took a job as a tomato grader, putting different sized
tomatoes into different boxes. He packed it in after two days through stress.
“It was all the decisions,” he explained.
if we don’t consciously choose, we don’t so much go with the flow as go here
there and everywhere – trying to do, be and have it all. Results vary from
spreading ourselves too thin, to missing out on what we really want.
who choose well have more of what they wan tin their lives.
How well are you choosing? Quick Quiz
you often experience joy, lightness and ease in life?
you mostly feel good about what you are doing?>
you feel a lot of stress or strain?
you bored a lot?
often do you regret having committed yourself yet continue anyway?
you find you’re missing out on some important things (like fun, time with loved
ones, exercise, rest, learning, growing your business)?
much of your life is better now than last year?
often do you make conscious choices about your direction in life?
any of the above questions make you feel uncomfortable, you will probably
benefit from making better choices.
people put off making choices, either from fear of making the wrong choice or
simply not getting around to it. Yet not choosing only perpetuates the fear.
There is, too. Always the nagging doubt that we’re not doing what’s best. We
come to the paradox that not making choices is harder work in the long run.
we make the big choices about what we want in our lives, we have a direction, a
set of guidelines which makes the smaller choices (like what to pay attention
to, what to do next) more obvious. Day-to-day choosing gets to be simpler and
you’d like to cultivate the art of choosing well a good place to start is when
faced with a choice to ask - “Does this choice really matter?” A lot of daily
choices, like what to eat or which video to rent are not usually that crucial
and you can just go with your whim or what is to hand, or according to some
routine. Today is Friday so have curry today. This frees up a lot of energy for
the important stuff and eliminates a surprising amount of strain each day.
the important choices, the vital ingredient for choosing well is clarity. When
we have a sense of what we are about, what we want and where we want to go,
then a lot of choices simply make themselves – and we usually find we
experience more joy in life.
developing any skill, it’s usually good to start with small steps. Some
questions to consider which could lead to some small but satisfying choices for
you are :-
simple action can I take today to make things better for myself?
am I prepared to do to be good to myself this month?
What am I putting up with that I can change this month?
that vital clarity for those big choices, here are some questions to consider.
is your biggest regret in life?
could you use that information to go forward from here?
you could do, be or have anything, what would it be?
your life been about so far? What would you like it to be about?
you’re unsure what you really want, how could you find out? Who could you talk
to? What could you explore?
you had a clear vision of where you want to go and how to get there, what would
could you dismantle any blocks?
In my experience, the way to make consistently excellent
choices in all areas of your life is to work with a good coach. A good coach
will not only bring you the clarity and self-knowledge to make inspired choices
but will also introduce you to resources you hadn’t dreamed of – as well as
enabling you to mobilise your own to the utmost.